1. GIVE UP YOUR NEED TO ALWAYS BE RIGHT
There are so many of us who can’t stand the idea of being wrong – wanting to always be right – even at the risk of ending great relationships or causing a great deal of stress and pain, for us and for others. It’s just not worth it. Whenever you feel the ‘urgent’ need to jump into a fight over who is right and who is wrong, ask yourself this question: “Would I rather be right, or would I rather be kind?” Wayne Dyer. What difference will that make? Is your ego really that big?
2. GIVE UP YOUR NEED FOR CONTROL
Be willing to give up your need to always control everything that
happens to you and around you – situations, events, people, etc. Whether they
are loved ones, coworkers, or just strangers you meet on the street – just
allow them to be. Allow everything and everyone to be just as they are and you
will see how much better will that make you feel.
“By letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by those who
let it go. But when you try and try. The world is beyond winning.” Lao Tzu
3. GIVE UP ON BLAME
Give up on your need to blame others for what you have or don’t
have, for what you feel or don’t feel. Stop giving your powers away and start
taking responsibility for your life.
4. GIVE UP YOUR SELF-DEFEATING SELF-TALK
Oh my. How many people are hurting themselves because of their
negative, polluted and repetitive self-defeating mindset? Don’t believe
everything that your mind is telling you – especially if it’s negative and
self-defeating. You are better than that.
“The mind is a superb instrument if used rightly. Used wrongly,
however, it becomes very destructive.” Eckhart Tolle
5. GIVE UP YOUR LIMITING BELIEFS
about what you can or cannot do, about what is possible or
impossible. From now on, you are no longer going to allow your limiting beliefs
to keep you stuck in the wrong place. Spread your wings and fly!
“A belief is not an idea held by the mind, it is an idea that
holds the mind” Elly Roselle
6. GIVE UP COMPLAINING
Give up your constant need to complain about those many, many,
maaany things – people, situations, events that make you unhappy, sad and
depressed. Nobody can make you unhappy, no situation can make you sad or
miserable unless you allow it to. It’s not the situation that triggers those
feelings in you, but how you choose to look at it. Never underestimate the
power of positive thinking.
7. GIVE UP THE LUXURY OF CRITICISM
Give up your need to criticize things, events or people that are
different than you. We are all different, yet we are all the same. We all want
to be happy, we all want to love and be loved and we all want to be understood.
We all want something, and something is wished by us all.
8. GIVE UP YOUR NEED TO IMPRESS OTHERS
Stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not just to make
others like you. It doesn’t work this way. The moment you stop trying so hard
to be something that you’re not, the moment you take off all your masks, the
moment you accept and embrace the real you, you will find people will be drawn
to you, effortlessly.
9. GIVE UP YOUR RESISTANCE TO CHANGE
Change is good. Change will help you move from A to B. Change will
help you make improvements in your life and also the lives of those around you.
Follow your bliss, embrace change – don’t resist it.“Follow your bliss and the
universe will open doors for you where there were only walls” Joseph Campbell
10. GIVE UP LABELS
Stop labeling those things, people or events that you don’t
understand as being weird or different and try opening your mind, little by
little. Minds only work when open. “The highest form of ignorance is when you
reject something you don’t know anything about.” Wayne Dyer
11. GIVE UP ON YOUR FEARS
Fear is just an illusion, it doesn’t exist – you created it. It’s
all in your mind. Correct the inside and the outside will fall into place.“The
only thing we have to fear, is fear itself.” Franklin D. Roosevelt
12. GIVE UP YOUR EXCUSES
Send them packing and tell them they’re fired. You no longer need
them. A lot of times we limit ourselves because of the many excuses we use.
Instead of growing and working on improving ourselves and our lives, we get
stuck, lying to ourselves, using all kind of excuses – excuses that 99.9% of
the time are not even real.
13. GIVE UP THE PAST
I know, I know. It’s hard. Especially when the past looks so much
better than the present and the future looks so frightening, but you have to
take into consideration the fact that the present moment is all you have and
all you will ever have. The past you are now longing for – the past that you
are now dreaming about – was ignored by you when it was present. Stop deluding
yourself. Be present in everything you do and enjoy life. After all life is a
journey not a destination. Have a clear vision for the future, prepare
yourself, but always be present in the now.
14. GIVE UP ATTACHMENT
This is a concept that, for most of us is so hard to grasp and I
have to tell you that it was for me too, (it still is) but it’s not something
impossible. You get better and better at with time and practice. The moment you
detach yourself from all things, (and that doesn’t mean you give up your love
for them – because love and attachment have nothing to do with one another,
attachment comes from a place of fear, while love… well, real love is pure,
kind, and self less, where there is love there can’t be fear, and because of
that, attachment and love cannot coexist) you become so peaceful, so tolerant,
so kind, and so serene. You will get to a place where you will be able to
understand all things without even trying. A state beyond words.
15. GIVE UP LIVING YOUR LIFE TO OTHER PEOPLE’S EXPECTATIONS
Way too many people are living a life that is not theirs to live.
They live their lives according to what others think is best for them, they
live their lives according to what their parents think is best for them, to
what their friends, their enemies and their teachers, their government and the
media think is best for them. They ignore their inner voice, that inner
calling. They are so busy with pleasing everybody, with living up to other
people’s expectations, that they lose control over their lives. They forget
what makes them happy, what they want, what they need….and eventually they
forget about themselves. You have one life – this one right now – you must live
it, own it, and especially don’t let other people’s opinions distract you from
your path.
